Today, in our society, it is quite amazing that most bad girls, who have a very ugly past end up finding love and are well appreciated by good guys, God-fearing, and responsible guys. People wonder why such happenstance keeps recurring.
The mystery is, however, quite easy to know through insight into an outline of a few steps given by Pastor Bolaji Idowu of the Harvesters International Christian Centre Gbagada.
A definition of a bad girl at this point is relevant, while the question: who is a good guy is also germane?
A bad girl is a female, who knows what she wants and will stop at nothing to get it. She’s not afraid to do and say what others only dream about. She is also led by the things of this world and is into ungodly things that are abhorred by Christ. The truth, however, is that she has a reason for what she does.
A good guy is someone, who despite being caring and respectful, would never become anything more than just a friend to his female friends. He is Godly, respects himself, moves with great thinkers and has a great sense of humour.
With those definitions, could people still wonder while a man with great values and morals would leave a good girl and end up settling down with a bad girl? According to Pastor Bolaji Idowu: even in the house of the Lord, most good guys like the bad girls. One of the people in the Bible who liked bad girls was Samson (Judges 14v1-4).
Samson was not just an ordinary guy. He was anointed. If you read the whole story, you would notice that Samson’s amorous life was not an ordinary one, as it has a divine hand in it, but Samson’s parents, however, reproached him that he never liked good girls. Although the hand of God was on him, his relationship was an established pattern.
Today, many Christians say they don’t want to marry a church girl and they would go all out to take for wives, girls who are ungodly. To be very sincere, good Christian girls are mostly new to things such as kissing, sex before the wedding and so many aggressive amorous stunts. They are strangers to abortions, they don’t club or even drink.
They would always pray and fast to attract a good responsible guy, but the guys go all out to date girls who are more exposed to life.
As a lady, however, it would help you to learn something new, while a guy would learn how to improve more on himself . Another example in the Bible was Jacob. He married women, the first one was Rachael and the other one was Leah.
Jacob was really in love with Rachael because she was a very nice woman, but no one knew she was a bad girl (Genesis 29). The first time Jacob saw Rachael, he appreciated her and kissed her because she appeared beautiful to him, while Leah was dull looking. Leah is just an example of some good ladies today. They are always dull looking and find it hard to be cheerful. How would you be approached by good guys if you are mostly moody?
God never made any lady to be dull looking. Every human being was beautifully created in His image and likeness. When the Bible said Rachael was beautiful and Leah was dull looking, it simply means Rachel was very active, expressive and had an engaging personality. She was lively and always held a conversation. Sometimes, most people think beauty is all about complexion but really it’s not.
Some women are not naturally attractive because they think being holy is everything. A girl doesn’t need to be really attractive, but her personality speaks more for her. For guys now, after the first year of marriage, you would get to forget how beautiful your wife is because when men want to get married, the basic thing they think about is just how a girl looks.
The most extremely beautiful girl now have poor characters. When you marry a beautiful girl, who is empty, you just married a liability, not an asset. Good sex will only keep a foolish man and not a good man. The Bible said Leah was dull looking, but she was a good girl, while Rachael was very beautiful, expressive and could hold a conversation well, but she was bad.
Good girls are not always available to be asked out just because they are busy doing the expected. The only time you see them is in church service, and after the service, they are back home. A bad girl is a female, who is ungodly, has a terrible past and her body count is within 50 and 60.
The reason the good guys like the bad girls is a matter of “Mindset”. There are certain mindsets, such as a guy saying he does not want to have a girl everyone has slept with. If you have the good girl where are you going to start from. Most good guys like girls who have good experience in sex life and would relieve them of the stress of starting to teach them.
So, a good guy believes that if he marries a good girl, she would be complaining because she is not used to a very active sex life. There are many virgins who love sex, but they are just obedient to God’s value. Most ladies have an inherent self-defensive image and they feel something is wrong with themselves. Let me tell you something ladies, you didn’t make yourself and God who made you is the wisest. Being in the entire world.
God did not create something without those itching for it. God does not make products to which there is any effective demand. Another reason good guys prefer bad girls is “packaging”. Ladies need to know how to dress and appear good in public.
There are certain hairstyles that fit you. There are certain make-ups and clothes that fit you. Good girls don’t package. Before you go for a packaging, a man should look at the content and before going for the content, you must look at the package.
There are so many things ladies need to learn how to do: (i) you should learn how to dress well and make heads turns. You don’t need to seduce, but look attractive (ii) you should learn how to compose yourself and walk properly. How did Jacob know Rachael was beautiful if he didn’t see some special features in her (iii) a bad girl has time for herself because she knows what she has to impress boys while a good girl would never have time to take care of herself.
Another reason good guys prefer bad girls is “Canal Desire” and it is a desire that is “anti-word of God”. Most good guys want girls who are always above their expectation in a matter of sex, and won’t give them tough times. Some guys want to marry girls from a rich home and when you have such desires, you won’t value good girls because your motive is already wrong.
Another reason is that good girls are “boring”. A good girl would always level allegations and find faults in little things. By the time you start talking that way, you are scaring boys, pushing people away. Once you are a very good person and has good morals, without talking, your lifestyle alone is very challenging and it intimidates people.
When you talk, you should not be criticising and accusing. Be the type of person they can talk to and can talk about. Most good girls don’t know any other things but the Bible. You must sound interesting to others, try and take yourself out and have a special treat.
All these are some of the reasons some ladies still ponder on why a bad girl ends up marrying the good guy. It’s not about spiritual problems, but inner features and your inability to attract approval.
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